Friday, July 06, 2007

Crossing Sounds

            Nancy drove us out onto the Ferry departing Bridgeport, Connecticut on our way to Port Jefferson, New York.  As she drove onto the Ferry we encountered the sound of car and truck engines shutting down, water lapping on the side of the ferry, ship engines began rumbling, as the clicking of my computer keys continued.  We got out of our rental Chevy Cobalt, walked up the stairway to pay for our ticket … then crossing to the front of the Ferry to feel and hear the salt wind … possibly created by the Ferry’s own screws powering us through the small waves and swells of the Long Island Sound. 

             Nancy and I began to talk about the General Synod meeting in Hartford , the numerous vacation conversations we had with friends and our excitement over dear friends yet to see.  As we talked my mind was distracted by a couple having a loud conversation, causing me to wonder … How much do we really hear of what we say to one another … How much do we hear of what is being said … Do we actually hear what the other intends … what do we actually filter out … what is ignored … unconsciously or consciously … How much does it change what is being said?  The question arose how often am I so intent on making my points … that I miss the connection, relationship, the intent for our time together … that I miss the purpose of re-creation … vacation … communication … The sound of “Stop!” … “Can’t you understand?” … “What do you mean?” “Do you actually mean that?”  “What do you mean by love?”

            I apologized to Nancy as I checked back in … Sitting next to me she had stopped talking, looking out at the approaching shore ahead … The Ferry’s sound system began broadcasting something … moments lost … can we ever get them back … connection, love, relationship?

           One ship was leaving Port Jeff as we were arriving … a normal course creating space for one another.  Friends greet us and life goes on … Tomorrow will be another day … if we live in a linear/time space continuum.  Good Night Jim Bob.

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1 - The term narcissism means love of oneself, and refers to the set of character traits concerned with self-admiration, self-centeredness and self-regard. The name was chosen by Sigmund Freud, from the Greek myth of Narcissus, who was doomed to fall in love with his own reflection in a pool of water.

While everyone is narcissistic to some degree, extreme narcissism can be highly dysfunctional, and is classified as a pathology called Narcissistic Personality Disorder

from your friends in Medina who you gave therapy to. (Comment this)

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